A dear friend often reminds me: “You can’t want it more than they do!”
How often have I campaigned for someone’s results so relentlessly, I’ve forgotten whose fight it was. I can teach, lead, support, parent, or serve, but I can’t want it for them, do it for them, or take the blame or credit for them.
I hope they do want it, do it, earn it, learn it.
But I will allow each the dignity of personal victories and failures, their detours and dead-ends. May they survive and even enjoy their scenic paths.
I’ve often wondered about motivation. Can a person be motivated by external encouragement or pleas? Or is motivation internal? I don’t think there is a clear answer. Perhaps it is a combination of the two – something inside another sparks based upon a moment, a thought, or a situation. Maybe that is the root of teaching….
And when you figure it out, we’ll all pay for the secret!